If you have been affected by a suicide

Unanswered questions

If someone close to you or someone you know has recently suicided, you may be experiencing a range of difficult emotions such as shock, disbelief or even anger alongside many unanswered questions including ‘Could I have done anything to prevent it?’ and ‘Why did he/she do it?’.

The grieving process

It is important to know that these types of emotions and thoughts are normal grief reactions and are very common amongst people bereaved by suicide.

Feelings associated with grief and loss vary and you may experience sadness, anger, anxiety, shock, panic, relief, numbness or guilt. Following a death by suicide, many grief responses are significantly intensified and may be overwhelming.

Dealing with stigma and confusing feelings

Because of the stigma attached to suicide you may also have feelings of shame or have people who you need to support you projecting blame. Sometimes suicide still occurs even when you have tried your best to help and this can reflect many complex factors. Being the person who acknowledged the problem and tried to help does not mean you are responsible if the person then goes on to complete suicide.

Look after yourself

Being affected by suicide can put you at risk of suicide as well.

If you are having suicidal thoughts the important thing to remember is that help and support is available.

If you are feeling overwhelmed or not sure what to do, try “Staying Calm” to help you regain control of your thoughts and help you think things through.

Help yourself by “Staying Calm”

Once you have watched or read “Staying calm” you may be able to think about how you are going to talk to someone that you trust.

Stories from those touched by suicide

Jayden’s Story: When Dad died

When Jayden’s father committed suicide, it left him feeling like it was his fault.