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Jayden’s Story: When Dad died

This is a fictional case study

Scene Description:

A young man in his late teens, sitting and telling his story


I was seven when Dad died. I was scared for ages. I didn’t know what this meant for me and Mum. Would we still be a family? Would Mum still be able to look after me or would she leave as well?

After it happened I wondered if he did it because of me. I answered back a bit and I didn’t do things when he asked me to. I thought, maybe he didn’t like us anymore.

It was a really bad time. Mum was a mess. It was pretty bad. But she sat down with me and we talked about everything and we made a plan. We went to see the plaque they made for him. It was up with all the other soldiers who have died, which was great. We planted a tree in our garden to remember him. We made a book with all these photos with things we did together and I did drawings of things I remembered doing with him.

I thought he was great – really funny told heaps of jokes.

Mum explained to me that he loved me and it wasn’t my fault at all. We go to see his plaque every year and I still write messages to him in my book when I want to talk to him.

It’s been 10 years since dad died and Mum and I are doing OK.

Need assistance?

For immediate assistance when life may be in danger Call 000

For national 24/7 help lines and crisis support counselling:

  • VVCS
    (Veterans and Veterans Families Counselling Service)
    1800 011 046
  • ADF All Hours Support Line
    1800 628 036
  • Lifeline Australia
    13 11 14
  • Mens Line
    1300 78 99 78
  • National Sexual Assault, Family and Domestic Violence Counselling Line
    1800 737 732
  • Kids Help Line (for 5-25yrs)
    1800 55 1800
  • Suicide Call Back Service
    1300 659 467
  • Salvation Army Crisis Line
    1300 36 36 22

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